I’ve never been one to celebrate Christmas, but that’s more because of my upbringing as a Black Muslim than by personal choice. My dad, who was Muslim but not particularly religious, didn’t mind it. However, my mom, who became more devout after my dad’s passing, was against it. So, while I don’t celebrate it, I’ve always had a fondness for Christmas.
The Allure of Togetherness
Even though I don’t believe that Jesus was born on December 25th or in the obvious Santa Claus, I love the idea of “togetherness” that Christmas brings. That word gives me chills, as cheesy as it sounds, I know. I want the feeling of togetherness, even if its for a temporary time. Christmas (like any other festival) is a time when people come together, often travelling from afar, paying unreasonable amounts for flights just to be with family.
The Reality of Christmas Belief
I’ve rarely met anyone who genuinely believes in the religious aspect of Christmas. Most people seem to celebrate the idea of Christmas with a tree, gifts and a turkey rather than its religious roots. God knows why people put up Christmas trees, but I like the idea that people gather together to up gifts underneath it.
Gifts with Thought and Meaning
Who doesn’t love a present? However, the idea of an expensive gift seems pointless to me. I appreciate gifts that show thought and time – a photo, a journal with a bit of writing, a ticket to a theatre or concert. While I’d love an iPhone or a car (though who would gift a car?), a gift without thought is like offering me an oxygen tank when I can’t even scuba dive.
Appreciating Christmas Beyond the Celebration
So, what I’m trying to say is, appreciate Christmas because it’s more than just a celebration of Jesus’s birth (although there is just no way I believe that he was born on the 25th of December). It’s a time where people have the day off to enjoy it together, well unless you’re working and getting paid triple for choosing to work on Christmas.
I find that during Christmas, people are the most wholesome I’ve genuinely ever seen. It’s a time when niceness comes out, where love might genuinely exist, and people smile with meaning, even though they’re bundled up to keep warm.
Embracing the Spirit
Christmas, for many, isn’t just about religious observance or extravagant gifts. It’s about togetherness, warmth, and creating memories with loved ones. So, although I’m not Christian, I truly do appreciate the beauty of the moments spent around people you love. The holiday season serves as a reminder to cherish the people around us and to spread kindness and love.
Creating New Traditions
As a non-believer, you might feel left out of traditional Christmas celebrations, but that doesn’t mean you can’t create your own traditions. Whether it’s a special meal, a movie night, or a day of volunteering, there are countless ways to make the holiday season meaningful. Here are a few ideas:
- Host a Friendsmas: Gather your closest friends for a festive celebration. It can be a potluck dinner, a game night, or even a themed party.
- Volunteer Together: Use this time to give back to the community. Volunteering at a local shelter, soup kitchen, or charity can bring a sense of fulfillment and togetherness.
- Explore Nature: Take a hike, go for a walk in the park, or visit a nearby nature reserve. Spending time outdoors can be a great way to reflect and enjoy the season.
- Cultural Experiences: Attend a concert, visit a museum, or explore a new cuisine. Embrace the diversity of your community and learn something new.
- Personal Reflection: Use the holiday season for personal growth and reflection. Start a new journal, set goals for the coming year, or simply take some time for self-care.
Addressing Common Questions
Why do some people celebrate Christmas if they’re not religious?
Christmas has evolved into a cultural holiday celebrated by many, regardless of religious beliefs. It’s a time for family, friends, and festivities, and the core values of love, kindness, and togetherness resonate with people from all walks of life.
What’s the significance of the Christmas tree?
The Christmas tree has pagan origins and was later incorporated into Christian traditions. It’s a symbol of life and renewal, often decorated to bring joy and light during the winter season.
Are there other holidays that emphasise togetherness?
Yes, many cultures have holidays that focus on bringing people together. For example, Diwali, Hanukkah, and Thanksgiving all emphasize family, community, and celebration.
The Power of Simple Gestures
During the holiday season, small gestures can make a big difference. Whether it’s a handwritten note, a homemade gift, or simply spending quality time with loved ones, the thought and effort behind these actions are what truly matter. Here are some ideas:
- Handwritten Letters: Take the time to write heartfelt letters to friends and family. Expressing gratitude and sharing memories can strengthen your bonds.
- Homemade Gifts: Crafting gifts yourself adds a personal touch. Whether it’s baked goods, handmade ornaments, or a custom playlist, these gifts show you care.
- Quality Time: Sometimes, the best gift is your presence. Spend time with loved ones, engage in meaningful conversations, and create lasting memories together.
Conclusion: Finding Your Own Meaning
Christmas, for many, transcends its religious origins. It’s a time to celebrate love, kindness, and the joy of being together. If you don’t believe in Christmas, you can still embrace the spirit of the festivals and create your own traditions that reflect your values and beliefs.
Whether it’s through hosting gatherings, volunteering, or simply spending time with loved ones, find what makes the season meaningful to you. The essence of Christmas lies in the connections we forge and the love we share.
So, take what resonates with you from this reflection, and may your holiday season be filled with peace and love.
